Thursday, 17 April 2014

Things you should never stop doing for yourself......

Marc and Angel inspired me to share this piece, This is Ess and Sydney Poulton inspired me to do the stock. This three bloggers have been a really awesome and good source of inspirational in my blog articles and life in general. Truly,writing just like photography is an art that touches many, a single article just like a single capture that tell a thousand words untold.

What is that desired dream,action, name it that you have wanted to do since forever? Well,here are some of the things you should never stop doing to yourself. Take stock because the sooner you heed those desires,the sooner you move to the next level!From Marc and Angel:

  1. Never stop stretching and improving yourself. – Always dream and shoot higher than you think is possible.  Do not bother trying to be better than your peers or predecessors.  Try to be better than you ever knew YOU could be.
  2. Never stop listening to your own inner voice. – The unhappiest folks are those who care the most about what everyone else thinks – those who let everyone else drown out their own inner voice.  So stand strong beside yourself.  There’s great freedom in leaving others to their opinions.
  3. Never stop walking comfortably in your own shoes. – If you don’t follow the path others want you to follow they might become irritated.  Don’t worry about it.  Let them be.  It’s their problem, not yours.  So many people seem to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but have no clue how to lead their own.  So focus on your inner callings and keep paving your own path.  Remember that it is more useful to be aware of a single strength or weakness in yourself than to be aware of a thousand strengths and weaknesses in others.
  4. Never stop working through your fears. – Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will.  So don’t let fear decide your future.  In the end, you can be comfortable or courageous, but not both at once.
  5. Never stop being a little unrealistic. – To be successful, you have to be a little unrealistic.  You have to believe that something totally different than what has happened for an eternity CAN happen starting now.  Think about it.  Being realistic doesn’t change anything – being unrealistic does.  Doesn’t it seem a bit unrealistic to be able to use a mobile phone to instantly research any topic imaginable, watch movies, get perfect driving directions to anywhere you want to go, and see your friends face-to-face no matter where in the world you are?  Fortunately a small group of computer scientists didn’t think so.
  6. Never stop doing what needs to be done. – You were born to be a success.  Although to be successful, you must plan to be, prepare to be, expect to be, and work to be, every day.  
  7. Never stop embracing your struggles. – After each struggle you once faced in the past was overcome, you grew stronger and more able to meet the ones you face today.  Likewise, the struggles you face today are preparing you for the challenges of tomorrow.  As this process of growth takes place, remember that there are no mistakes.  The events that arise as you journey forward, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary steps in order to learn what you need to know to reach the places you’ve chosen to go.
  8. Never stop being willing to make mistakes. – Making mistakes is far more productive than never moving.  You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren’t busy avoiding or denying them.  And no matter how bad of a mistake you make, there comes a time when you have to stop thinking about it and move on.  No regrets in life – just lessons that show you the way forward.
  9. Never stop getting back up. – The strongest and most accomplished people are not those who always win, but those who refuse to give up even after they lose.  You might think you’re not good enough, but you’ll surprise yourself if you keep trying.  What defines us is how well we rise after falling.  At the end of the day, to win, all you have to do is get up one more time than you fall down.
  10. Never stop making the best of it. – When you lose something, don’t think of it as a loss, but as a gift that lightens your load so you can better travel the path that was meant for you.
  11. Never stop ignoring the naysayers. – When someone undermines your dreams, predicts your doom, or criticizes you in any way, remember, they’re telling you their story, not yours.
  12. Never stop taking small steps forward. – The moment you give up is the moment you let someone else win.  So keep going.  You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.  
  13. Never stop giving yourself a chance to soar to new heights. – You’ll never be able to fly if you hold on to what holds you back.  So respect yourself enough to walk away from what no longer grows you.
  14. Never stop smiling. – When you lose your smile, you lose your footing.  So be determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation you may find yourself.  For you will eventually learn that the greater part of your happiness or unhappiness is determined not by your specific circumstances, but by your attitude and outlook.
  15. Never stop thinking positive. – Thoughts are power.  They create and destroy.  What is possible is everything.  What you do is up to you.  Look around and you will see that almost your entire life has been born out of your thoughts.  Know this, and plant your seeds accordingly.  You can change your mind at any moment.  So go ahead.  Change it right now.
  16. Never stop laughing at yourself and your life situations. – All self-misery has its roots in self-pity, and all self-pity is rooted in taking life too seriously.  If you take everything too seriously, especially yourself, you’ll wind up fearing every new step you take.  Loosen up and laugh it off if you can – especially when things don’t go as planned.  People with a good sense of humor have a better sense of life.  You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself and your circumstances.
  17. Never stop appreciating the life you’re living right now. – Stop rushing.  Breathe.  Be where you are.  You’re where you’re supposed to be at this very moment.  Every experience and step is necessary.  
  18. Never stop indulging in life’s little daily joys. – Notice what you love, not what you hate.  Smile more.  Happiness is enjoying the small things in life, all while chasing after the big ones.
  19. Never stop spreading your kindness. – How you make others feel about themselves, says a whole lot about you.  So treat people right.  Kindness IS a gift you can afford to give.
  20. Never stop giving what you can. – Exercise your talents to give back.  Do so whenever you can, because you can.  And when you get tired, remember all those people who can’t do what you can do.  Think about what they would be willing to give to have the abilities you have right now – a simple gift you take for granted.  Then strive harder just for them.  And know that there are others out there with different gifts who are doing the same for you.
  21. Never stop giving your important relationships a fair chance. – It’s impossible to find someone who will never hurt you, so  you go for the ones worth your pain.And remember, without a little pain, joy wouldn’t feel so good.
  22. Never stop doing little things for your own happiness. – Remember, happiness comes from your own choices and actions.  Waiting for someone else to make you happy is the best way to be sad.
  23. Never stop opening your mind to new perspectives. – Don’t hate what you don’t understand.  Give things a fair chance.  Your mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work unless it’s open.
  24. Never stop evolving. – Just because you liked something at one point in time doesn’t mean you’re required to always like it.  You can change your mind.  You don’t have to pretend to like something as an act of loyalty to who you are as a person, based on who you once were.  To be sincerely loyal to yourself is to allow yourself the freedom to change.  The only thing you ever are for sure is unsure, and this means you’re growing, and not stagnant or imprisoned by old ways of thinking.
  25. Never stop writing your own story, your own way. – When writing the story of your life, never, ever let someone else hold the pen.  Make conscious choices every day that align your actions with your values and ambitions.  Because the way you live each day is a sentence in the story of your life.  Each day you make a choice as to whether the sentence ends with a period, a question mark, or an exclamation point. 

What would you add to the list??Write on the comment box below. 

Have a lovely Easter Lovelies!!!

Monday, 14 April 2014

African Beauty

The bald head or short hair was not fashion until recently. Short  hair with a touch of some colour like red, white and other unique colours has made African ladies kill it in a 'fashion kind of talk'. To them hair does not define them at all but their deeds tells it all.

With Kenya being on the map for an Oscar Award from our very

They will never know – Dying Dreams!

I came across two architects arguing on a final draft to present to their client. The two architects who work on a partnership basis were trying to come up with the best designs to show their client for approval. The argument was based on the play ground area. One thought that reducing the play ground area and doubling it as a parking area would be the best plan. The other thought drawing a plan that had a playground and a parking area separate was just the best thing. I agreed with the latter.

In our current society, games are not as engaging, therapeutic and fun as those good gone years. The digital child game is confined to the digital gadgets. This is more common with the urban children.

With the high rise of demand of rental houses, little consideration is taken to leave a space for a play ground in the squeezed city environment. There is rarely any space left for the children in the urban setting to even kick a ball or even play hide and seek. The surroundings of the urban areas are filled with dump sites that are a health hazard to children. Active urban children are confined to their squeezed balconies, sitting or bedrooms as their playgrounds. This posts risks to children since they can break valuable household goods or even play with electrical gadgets common around the house.

Lately, young children are known to suffer from certain complications like obesity and heart related diseases due to under activity. These diseases were characterized with the frail and old in the society. Not everyone can afford taking their children for bouncing castles and other social amenities where children can interact and play as well.

They said too much work and no play makes Jake a dull lad!!They were right. In addition, there is rise in lifestyle and behavioral change with rise in pornography addiction and fashion change among the youth being rampant. This is because most children are confined to their television sets and have been brain washed by the western culture since this is all they got rather than the common open playing fields.

If we all remember very well, those tender ages were adrenaline filled days. We would walk from village to village looking for playmates and engaging in game competitions. We all remember the famous katii, bladder, hill down sliding, swimming in the shallow rivers, hide and seek…..the games were endless!!!

Those childhood games brought us experiences and treasure-able memories. Through the games we knew our weak areas and our strongholds too. We were extroverts at those tender ages. Mothers of our own siblings when our guardians were away. We could tend the farm and the large herds of cattle with ease. Wait, I barely wore shoes in any occasion unless on a family gathering or a church service. Sure, those were good times. Our play was therapeutic; our therapy moment.

Sadly, our children are growing up as introverts. They are confined in their own maze. They barely mingle and when they do we are scared of what party they are interacting with. The digital world has narrowed play to zombieness and coach potatoes.  I’m afraid our children’s dreams will be shattered just as the play fields are shrinking.

Again, what is with the young generation being mute when it comes to expressing themselves in their mother tongue?? Okay, story for another day…


I will go straight to the point on this one. I am a girl…nope a lady,Yes a lady! Are you doubting?Doesn't matter anyway.They are gentlemen and yes they are boys!!!You want to vent? Allow me to do it first,please.

Ignorance and greed will come to kills us one of this days. Starting with the poachers that are draining the heritage that I so want to be proud to explain to my unborn; and to those men that cannot keep it in themselves. They sure know how to please with little flattery meaningless sweet words and I thank them for that. We offer the listening ear but you don’t know how useless we find it. What happened to honesty and the African friendship of mingling socially freely with no strings attached?
Anyway,when you look at the base of your ring finger and keep on touching it as if the finger has just been cloned we see that. When you insist on ‘my place’ always and not ‘your place’ always…we raise red flags. When the phone is full of security codes we smell a rat. When we are stuck in a rut and we call, you fail to pick up the call-may be you are too busy lying and explaining where you were last night. So you should know – boys – we read all that. You ask why we stay even after the million red flags? Well , you know why you chose us and not her. Maybe we are not as holly as we may seem. Watch your step lest you fall in a manhole.Just being frank.

Thank you for the over flow of flowers,over sized dresses,not matching lingerie and the coffee dates. You said you were a bachelor right? We sucked in the lies but well like I said don’t think we are as holly as we look. Looks are so deceiving but a plus for us.

We know that you have been around the block a few if not many times and you know how to treat a Lady. We are not surprised!! If anything,treat us as much as well but expect less from us.

The illicit blinking eye tag you communicate to your boy friends of ‘a just by the way cheap material’ well that’s fine. By the way do you know what the boys say behind your back? Do you know that John* is my friend too? We met over coffee last week. Just updating you.

To you and the other not so worth boys…keep your rings at the ‘cloned’ finger we will so respect that. We like boys that show that they can handle responsibilities. Don’t be suitors of lies; worthless lies. Just like you want keepers and not whiners, we want men and not boys. Period!

© ask the furious Miller

Tuesday, 8 April 2014

Autism Awareness Month

Autism is categorized as a developmental disability known to cause social,communication and behavioral challenges. It can sometimes be detected at the age of 18 months or even younger.

The impairments involved with autism include repetitive communication and restricted mindset with a limited imagination.These lead to delay in language and social growth. The behavior and activities for kids with autism is not the same as the 'normal kids'. Children with Autism develop at different rates in different areas of growth.

The disabilities are lifelong though through careful training, therapy sessions and sensitive support an autistic can be improved. The impairments maybe associated with cognitive disabilities. 

Autism is a lifelong condition, and the available, necessary supports and treatment change as people  move through major life phases. With the rising diagnostic rate of 1 in 68 it is important that we anticipate the pressing need for supports and programs for people  across the lifespan.

Behaviors in children and adults that should warrant a red flag include:

Not looking at objects when another person points to them
• Avoiding eye contact
• Strong and constant desire to be alone
• Difficulty in understanding others’ feelings
• Difficulty in talking about their own feelings
• Having interest in others, but lacking the ability to talk or play with them
• Repetition of actions
• Difficulty adapting to changes in normal routine
• Unusual reactions to certain scents, tastes or sounds 

Autism is not mental disability neither is it the start of a boring life but it is the start of a tighter bond in the family.Learn from this adorable boy, Ian Munyao Musau.

 Diagnosis of autism can be challenging as there are no specific tests that can be administered; as such, medical professionals must rely on behavioral and developmental indications.

 For parents,teach your children the simple truths and facts of how to relate and love fellow children with autism.It is common to shy off from some of this topics but teaching your children the value to accept others and explain what autism is and why kids with autism behave differently;will really help to make the society safer and more friendly to children with autism.


For more information about autism spectrum disorder, visit

Monday, 7 April 2014

For His Eyes Only....

Eight years sounds like a life time. To me it is just like the blink of an eye. It is funny how time flies so fast.He was a soul mate,father,brother,friend,colleague,mentor to many. My little sister was barely a year old to even know what was happening then.She has his qualities of one who cannot be put down by words alone. When kids talk out loud of what their father's have done for them,she defends herself by saying her father is in the states. Even without a father figure she never questions why...but lives every moment as if he is right there.

For the three beautiful ladies we hold special memories,we put in mind that the Owner of the Vineyard picks only the ripe fruits.

Here is to you Daah-dee,

Just like the blanket you bought me,
When i barely knew my name,
Daah-dee is what i called you,
Rocking me in your arms,
It was the safest place i ever had,
Years are gone,
This journey seems to be long,
I wish you are not so far away,
I miss you terribly,
You are in a better place,
Looking where you lie,
You are as still and peaceful,
I know you watching over us,
I smile knowing you are safe,
Our guardian angel,
We miss you,
Rest well daah-dee,
Ukisikia umechoka kupumzika unaweza rudi,
Mum is lonely,
 Well. Til we meet again.